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why do people say “don’t be a pussy” when talking about weakness more like “don’t be a man’s ego” because you know there isn’t nothing more fragile than that

uh 

because “pussy” is the shortened form of the word “pusillanimous”, which means “timid, cowardly”

and not the slang word for the female genital region?

literally no one else knows this. nobody. 

WHAT

Sensational.

Remarkable.

it’s a real word

you: pussy

me, an intellectual: pusillanimous

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For months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.

No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:

“You know! Boys will be boys!” 

“He’s just going through a phase!”

“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”

“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”

“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”

I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”

She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.

It was so tempting.

He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.

She had to keep her building safe.

Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.

His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.

Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.

I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”

Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning.  How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?

There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.

There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.

Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”

The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement

This is so brilliant. We learn things from socialization process. What our parents, friends and peers do, media and all. I think perhaps rape is because parents think boys will be boys, they bully, fight and destroy things, it’s their characteristics so they don’t bother to stop them. But it manifests in them, knowing or unknowingly, they will just think, because I’m a boy and boys tend to do these, so it doesn’t matter even if the girl hates it, says no, because I’m a boy.

Just reblog this, this message is really powerful. For parents and future parents.

What’s also interesting, is if you frame this as about spoiling your children, and about spoiled children, people tend to agree and get it. They’ll agree that children whose parents lay down no boundaries for them when they hurt others, who let them have whatever they want at the expense of others, and justify away the harm they do, will probably grow up thinking they can do this to others (usually weaker than them, or they perceive as weaker) as adults.  But if you mention the word “privilege”, “entitlement” or anything relating to gender, everybody freaks the f- out and will deny up, down, back, forth, and sideways that how you raise a child, what you allow them to get away with, or training them that their hurtful behaviour will always be justified, can affect them at all. 

ALL OF THIS.

Obligatry read FOR EVERYONE

The Problem with ‘Boys Will Be Boys’

THIS

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reblog this post with a cool animal species lets make a wholesome thread

ok ill give a headstart:

i really like leopard seals 

axolotls are p rad

I LOVE THOSE

potoos look like muppets and i ove tem

here’s a quokka it’s like someone decided to splice together a wallaby and a teddy bear they literally always look like a benevolent cartoon

i don’t think you can get more wholesome than that adorable lil seed-eating smiley face. they’re not even like dolphins, cute on the outside and evil on the inside. they’re herbivores about the size of a cat. there is nothing wrong with them. 

The Springhaas, or “irl pikachu” as it is sometimes known, is basically a rat shaped like a bunny abruptly caught in the middle of trying to evolve into a kangaroo. This is why they tend to look startled.

This is a dik dik. They are tiny antelopes from southern and eastern Africa–seriously so smol. With teeny hooves and teeny horns and big soulful eyes. And the name is fun to say. It comes from the alarm call that the females make. They live together in monogamous pairs. 

Long Eared Jerboa

The adorable mash-up of a hamster, bunny, and kangaroo. Whiskers with no end, ears that put a fennec to shame, and adorability beyond measure!

bringing this back on your dashes

a sichuan takin bull and his daughter

often the color of donald trump’s hair and looking like a cross between a bison and a guinea pig, the takin is actually a bloody big goat-antelope. they have splendid noses, a natural smile, and share their habitat with pandas. which should be good enough for anyone.

This is an okapi. They are related to giraffe, can lick their own eyeballs and kind of always look like you just asked them for a ride to the airport but look at those ears and the little striped legs ~(*^*)~

Chambered nautilus! A living fossil! I also love axolotl though.

Originally posted by montereybayaquarium

A cinnamon bear! Actually a member of the black bear family, they’re one of the more calm species out there. We also have matching hair <3 Enjoy this one with a heart on its chest!

Red pandas!

Originally posted by cutestuffco

HIGHLAND COWS

This is the most wholesome post on tumblr.

I love echidnas

ESPECIALLY BABY ECHIDNAS

Fennec foxes!!

I love all of these!

Capybaras! They’re the largest cavy species,(cavies are animals like guinea pigs) They’re BASICALLY a giant golden retriever in the skin of  guinea pig.

MANATEES

Originally posted by lovefloridauk

They’re just big lumps that float around the sea. They’re non-aggressive, non-territorial herbivores that spend most of their time sleeping or eating, or they might be socializing with other manatees or investigating interesting objects.

Best of all, as of this year they are no longer endangered!!

over-v-i-e-w:

• Passing out sheet music becomes harder than it should be
• “There isn’t enough sheet music over here!” “THEN SHARE IT”
• Sopranos hogging the sheet music
• “Someone’s really sharp” “Well, gee I wonder who the f UCK THA T WOULD BE”
• *judgemental staring*
• Sopranos getting really confused when they don’t have melody
• “WHERE THE FUKC IS THE MIDDLE NOTE”
• Altos rolling their eyes when the sopranos overpower the WHOLE CHOIR
• Sopranos trying to fucking one-up each other
• “WE’RE A CHOIR, NOT A BUNCH OF SOLOISTS COMPETING AGAINST EACH OTHER”
• Bass voices not being mature enough yet to reach the low notes
• Tenors straining to reach the high notes
• “It’s a B flat iTS NOT THAT HIGH, STOP STRAINING”
• Standing for DAYS
• Sopranos never shutting THE FUCK UP
• Middles trying to sing their part then giving up when they’re drowned out by everyone else
• Middles crowding around each other trying to find their notes
• “Altos are a little flat” *exasperated sighing*
• “Sopranos are too sharp” “n O SHIT”
• Panicking on concert nights because you don’t know the FUCK ING LYRICS
• The choir dresses are really shit
• Apparently no one knows the meaning of “BALANCE” when it comes to sound
• How the FUCK did you even make it into the second choir?
• Losing sheet music
• “No you can’t eat in the music room”
• Everyone eats anyway
• THE GODDAMN MUSICAL IS IN LIKE FIVE WEEKS, PEOPLE ARENT SHOWING UP TO REHEARSAL AND IT'L TAKE A GODDAMN MIRACLE TO PULL THIS TRAINWRECK OFF
• “Smile and move around a little, you all look like walking corpses”
• I T S N OT A FUCK ING SO LO HOLY SH IT

choirjokes:

singerprobs:

• “Stagger breathe! Stagger breathe! Stagger breathe!”
• “You can’t breathe there!”
• “You can make eight measures without breathing!”
• “Blend! Blend!”
• “Just the tenors!”
• “Now, WITHOUT the sopranos”
• “Why don’t you have a pencil?”
• “Did you take a breath???”
• “This is serious!”
• “You can sing with a sore throat! You shouldn’t be singing from your throat anyway!”
• “cresCENDO!”
• “I can’t hear the altos!”
• “I can’t hear the tenors!”
• “I can’t hear the bass!”
• “The sopranos can be a bit softer!”
• “Why do you keep taking a breath there?”
• “I’m going to call this concert off if you don’t get it together!”
• “A little less vibrato from the sopranos!”
• *claps rhythm loudly and purposefully*
• “You can’t eat during choir practice!!!”
• “Why isn’t your music in order?”
• “PROJECT! PROJECT! PROJECT!”
• “From the top!”
• “From the top, but this time I won’t interrupt you!”
• “From the top, but this time I PROMISE I won’t interrupt you!”
• “Did you write in your music that you can’t take a breath there?“ 
• "No, I don’t have another copy of the music!”
• “How did you lose your music already?”
• “You’re not on Broadway! Don’t sing like you are!”
• “BLEND! BLEND! BLEND!”
• “Vowels!”
• “Consonants!”
• “Vowels!”
• “Consonants!”
• “More feeling! Pay attention to the words you’re singing!”
• “You can’t write in your music with pen!!!”
• “Why do you keep breathing? You don’t need to breathe in order to sing! What’s wrong with you?”

~peachysoprano~